I have always said in Early Years we love an unnecessary job! Unfortunately the way we are regulated means we have to prove ourselves to lots of different people. Along the way we have gotten so good at doing stuff for others – we put unnecessary pressure on ourselves and each other ALL of the time.
Right now we are in the middle of a CRISIS. Now is not the time for worrying and comparing yourself to someone else and feeling terrible if you have not done any of the following:
- rewritten your entire handbook, policies & procedures and written a pandemic manifesto
- cleaned your entire garden complete with fairy garden and made a hand made mud kitchen
- redecorated, revamped, restocked, re-resourced a baby room / toddler room / built a new room
- written a colour coded risk assessment 783 pages long
- recorded a tear jerking video for families
- provides telephone counselling 24/7 for every single child & family
- delivered learning parcels and care packages to the entire community
It is true that some of us may cope with this situation by keeping busy. If that is you and this is how you are surviving right now – I see you trying the very best you can.
If that is not you and you feel as though some days you have done all you can just by getting through the day – I see you trying the very best you can.
ALL of us are doing the best WE can right now.
It is going to look different for every single one of us. We don’t know what each of us is really dealing with away from the zoom calls and weekly catch ups.
We are under enough stress and pressure as it is – do not be responsible for applying your own unnecessary pressure. If someone doesn’t respond in the way you thought they might when you reached out – it’s not about you. It’s about them. Don’t let yourself feel resentment and hurt. We are all hurting just in different ways.
I saw a quote on facebook from , with just four words on it:
𝗥𝗲𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗴𝗲,𝗥𝗲𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻, 𝗥𝗲𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻, 𝗥𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿.
It made me think of how we could use these words, some of us may still be recharging right now that is what we need – some of us are moving up and down and in between.
Social media has been such a lifeline to connect with others at this time, but every time we take a little scroll, we secretly become Comparing Caroline’s – we can’t help it. We see what someone else is doing and compare it to what we are not doing!
Don’t worry about what another setting is doing.
If you find that happening. Stop. If you’ve limited the news and the media because it worries you. Take a break from a group or a page if it’s making you feel unworthy.
Take care of you and your team. Rather than speculate and worry about the what the future holds, take care of yourself today.
When the time comes to return it’s going to be difficult for us all – we will need to have taken proper gentle care of our mental and physical health if we wish to be in the best position to support our children and families.
If this experience has to teach us something, as a sector, let it be how we learned to take much better care of ourselves and look out for each other, let it be empathy and how we reconnected and rediscovered our philosophy, vision and core beliefs.
“When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That’s when you can get more creative in solving problems.” ~ Stephen Covey